Recent content by Paratus

Of course she doesn't have to justify herself. I think you have misconstrued my posts. I am not saying what he did was right, or saying that his behaviour was ok. In all of my posts I have pointed out that he is wrong, and the behaviour he has shown is unacceptable. I am also in agreement...

.... and not any of them seem to get a shot at it here, it's just assumed that anyone who struggles to cope with the shock of being told they're going to be a father is a pathetic deadbeat who just wants to force their partner into an abortion. If he's finding it hard to accept that she's...

You're missing my point. You're assuming that any soon-to-be father will be able to rationally make that decision, and just objectively decide "nope, don't want anything to do with her." I'm trying to show that's almost certainly not the case. Anyone who has such an extreme, panicked...

... which might be disappointing, as well. Maybe some of these guys would have ended up as decent fathers, but because they only got abuse when they were feeling extremely fragile and made the wrong decisions, they were driven further and further away and end up as nothing but a source of...

But you see, this is the sort of thing I'm worried about. You've already decided that if he doesn't support you 110%, then you'll be angry with him. You need to realise that if it's not what he's expecting, then he'll struggle, and you might get a sub-optimal response. I promise, I'm not...

Yup, it's a clear example of emotional immaturity on his part, and yup, he absolutely needs to man up, you're totally right. However, I take issue with a lot of other things that have been said. He's said some nasty things, yes, and he's been incredibly awful and there is no excuse for how...

Don't ask a bunch of us on the internet; get yourself to the nearest Citizen's Advice Bureau and ask! Remember you can't have everything. Benefits will provide a house for you if you can't provide for one yourself, so if you can work, they need to have a bit of delineation. Look into what...

... and something pointy is better than something big and flat.

I dunno, I think most people who are afraid of marriage are actually afraid of weddings (and the subsequent descent into insolvency!)! I like the tradition. And if you love someone enough to want to form a family with them, why not get some legal recognition?

It's a shame the sort of attitudes on display here! Especially when people are going on about "making him pay by law" and stuff, or "making his life unbearable!" What on Earth would that solve? Honestly, look at you all, clamouring about "making him pay" and blahing on about the CSA; sod the...

Honest, they do! Some manufacturers have a list of keys kept under warranty, so if your car's quite new and you're the first owner, they'll be able to fire the sound down a phone to you. But honestly, I've done the "blip your key over the phone" thing before and it works, so anyone who has...

On that note, the windscreen's easy to replace, but you need to make sure you make a big enough hole to get through. On any modern car, the locks will be deadlocks, which mean you can't pop them open using the internal handle by reaching through a window. So yeah, if you need to get in, smash...

I'm a Dad :) I have a 13 month old daughter. I don't see many blokes round here but you can still use all the forums.

I think your family sound a bit horrid; recommending you lie about an abortion?? On the other hand, your bloke doesn't sound that mature yet, so he'll eventually settle and end up in a stable job etc I'm sure. I'd focus on what you've got; you're both suitably in love to have a baby together...

I think you're dealing with someone who's a bit immature and is finding the shock of the pregnancy very difficult to deal with, but I'd caution against immediately going for the harsh "screw you I'm better on my own, it's your loss" stuff. You have 90% of the stuff to deal with in the...