9 year old lack of confidence

[chickadee1976]

My son has a school talk to do next week.

Normally he reads very well and confidently when reading say a story book or even tonight when he was reading a passage from his research materials.

Tonight we began his talk and i asked him to read what he had written for me.

He instantly burst into tears, and couldnt continue.

Eventually i got him to read it, with me facing away.

He mumbled his way thru it and i kept having to ask what the next sentance was.

After he finished i told him it was really good and asked if he was still scared.

Yes and more crying was the answer.


He gave me a reason of when everyone is looking at him it makes him feel like he has done something bad??

I dont know what to do to make it better.

I reckon by then end of the week i can get him reading infront of me just by practising it. But i think when he gets to school he will be upset again

 

[EllieG]

Is awful to see them upset, especially about school stuff, you can be left feeling you have little control over what happens to them there How about popping in to have a chat with his teacher, or giving him/her a call during break, they might know some tactics to help him, and if not, they will be aware so can support him on the day. I don't know what else to suggest, do you think maybe giving him a lucky mascot or something might help??? Hope it goes well for him

 

[mamichuli]

Aww poor kid, i feel for him, i was the same when i was little. My dad used to tell me to imagine that everyone that was looking at me was in their underwear with a birds nest on their heads. This used to make me lautgh and helped me break the tension. A special talisman helps, a pencil which is special for the day, maybe?

Hope it goes well for him


Lisa

 

[chickadee1976]

Thanks girls.

ll try the lucky charm

But ive called the school, as i feel i should discuss it with the teacher. I dont want the same problem following him all thru school.

 

[dippy_me]

aww poor thing,l'm sure he'll grow out of it,my just turned 10 year old daughter should of gone on a school holiday on the 9th june,she had been looking forward to it,but as it got closer her bottle went.l've had tears at bedtime etc.so l ended up cancelling the holiday which l'm sure she would of enjoyed.l think what she didnt like was the fact that she couldn't ring me and l couldn't ring her,oh well,maybe she'll have the confidence to go next year before she goes to senior school