OK, my OH told me last night he isnt ready for being a father - despite me being 13 weeks pregnent.
We stopped using contraception in Feb - it was more me pushing him, he wanted to wait a couple of years, but I was told I could be infertile and to try now, on 2 occasions he asked to use a condom an I said I wanted a baby, after that he never asked again and we never used one again. It only took a few months for me to fall on. If we had known this, we would have waited a year or 2 (although I doubt he ever would have said lets start trying!)
He seemed relatively pleased about it at first, his face lit up when we had the scan and he is so scared of us loosing the baby. He said last night he doesnt feel ready for it yet and likes his life how it is now, but apparantly I rushed on ahead wanting to get pregnant.
I am now really scared he will leave me. We have been togther for 11 years, I am 29, he is 33. I told him its a positive thing that will bring us closer, but I am not sure he sees it this way.
He also doesnt open up much at all, it is hard to tell what he is really feeling and thinking, so therefore this must be a good thing for him to tell me how he feels. Where do we go from here? I love him dearly and i am sure he loves me too.
(a very upset) Jo.
We stopped using contraception in Feb - it was more me pushing him, he wanted to wait a couple of years, but I was told I could be infertile and to try now, on 2 occasions he asked to use a condom an I said I wanted a baby, after that he never asked again and we never used one again. It only took a few months for me to fall on. If we had known this, we would have waited a year or 2 (although I doubt he ever would have said lets start trying!)
He seemed relatively pleased about it at first, his face lit up when we had the scan and he is so scared of us loosing the baby. He said last night he doesnt feel ready for it yet and likes his life how it is now, but apparantly I rushed on ahead wanting to get pregnant.
I am now really scared he will leave me. We have been togther for 11 years, I am 29, he is 33. I told him its a positive thing that will bring us closer, but I am not sure he sees it this way.
He also doesnt open up much at all, it is hard to tell what he is really feeling and thinking, so therefore this must be a good thing for him to tell me how he feels. Where do we go from here? I love him dearly and i am sure he loves me too.
(a very upset) Jo.