Dolores
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Hi girls,
I know staying at home full time and not working whilst you are pregnant and have your babies may not be what everyone would think of as "alternative" parenting but, because working for women is so common now, and going back to work so early is, I feel like I am partaking in some kind of weird, alternative parenting by doing this.
So my question is this! Are any of you here stay at home Mums? I would love to know your experiences.
I fall into a bit of a weird category. Me and my husband have never claimed benefits but we don't drive a Rolls Royce. We're not in the super rich category but we're comfortably off despite me being quite young (I've just turned 29 and haven't worked since I was 26). My husband works from home and runs his own business and employs a few people.
Everyone I have got to know through pregnancy classes has now gone back to work. My son is 1, I have just found out I am pregnant with our second.
It's put me in a strange, lonely place. I hardly have any normal mums I can relate too or who are about during the week days. Everyone looks at me funny when they ask me "When are you going back to work?" And I say, "Well, I'm not, I'm just going to stay at home"
I've had nasty, sly comments from other Mum's about being a "Yes Sir" step ford wife, I've had other Mums outright ask me, "Well, don't you get bored?! I got my life back when I went back to work. I need my me time, my sanity."
They constantly feel like it's okay to judge my choices, but if I were to judge theirs, just imagine the backlash! It's so unfair! Imagine if I said, "Well, don't you feel bad leaving your baby to go to work?" You would just never.
Anyone dealt with this or know any groups for Stay At Home Mums?
Any advice much appreciated.
Dolores x
I know staying at home full time and not working whilst you are pregnant and have your babies may not be what everyone would think of as "alternative" parenting but, because working for women is so common now, and going back to work so early is, I feel like I am partaking in some kind of weird, alternative parenting by doing this.
So my question is this! Are any of you here stay at home Mums? I would love to know your experiences.
I fall into a bit of a weird category. Me and my husband have never claimed benefits but we don't drive a Rolls Royce. We're not in the super rich category but we're comfortably off despite me being quite young (I've just turned 29 and haven't worked since I was 26). My husband works from home and runs his own business and employs a few people.
Everyone I have got to know through pregnancy classes has now gone back to work. My son is 1, I have just found out I am pregnant with our second.
It's put me in a strange, lonely place. I hardly have any normal mums I can relate too or who are about during the week days. Everyone looks at me funny when they ask me "When are you going back to work?" And I say, "Well, I'm not, I'm just going to stay at home"
I've had nasty, sly comments from other Mum's about being a "Yes Sir" step ford wife, I've had other Mums outright ask me, "Well, don't you get bored?! I got my life back when I went back to work. I need my me time, my sanity."
They constantly feel like it's okay to judge my choices, but if I were to judge theirs, just imagine the backlash! It's so unfair! Imagine if I said, "Well, don't you feel bad leaving your baby to go to work?" You would just never.
Anyone dealt with this or know any groups for Stay At Home Mums?
Any advice much appreciated.
Dolores x